Breathe Life Back Into Your Relationship
Has your relationship going stale and you’re concerned that you could be headed for a break up?
The following practical tips will help you breathe some much needed life into your stagnating relationship.
#1 – Set aside some time for a one on one chat. This is where successful relationships begin – having open communication between you without other distractions or demands on your time. If you need to make an appointment, by all means! Make sure you have the ability to really talk without interruptions.
#2 – take a piece of paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left side, make a header that says “Great As Is” and list what’s working with your relationship. What is good for both of you right now? On the right side – put a header of “Needs More Attention”.
This is your chance to be really honest and open with your partner. What would you like to see happening that isn’t?
Were there things you used to enjoy doing that you don’t do anymore? See how creative you can be and you may even surprise yourselves by having some fun as you’re working through this part!
#3 – make a promise that you both agree to keep. Promise each other that you are going to commit to working on the “needs more attention” items. Work together as your own personal relationship support group. When you do this, you’re giving yourselves the best chance of happiness together in the future.
#4 – take baby steps by doing little things for each other. Looking back at the beginning of your relationship, was there a bit of magic that you had? Like giving flowers for no particular reason, other than to say “hey, I love you, you know…and I’m thinking about you!”.
If your love is still there, underneath the routines and day to day stresses, then you have a real chance of breathing life back into what has become a stale relationship.
#5 – pick a date night every week and don’t allow other plans to come first. Granted, there may be times when you have to cancel but really try to stick to this one. This is a HUGE life changing tip for stale relationships and is the one that can really make the difference for the two of you.
Make this date extra special - don’t get into a rut and do the same thing or go to the same place every week. Try new things – and don’t be afraid to give a little. If your partner suggests doing something that you’re not all that interested in, give it a go anyway. But with the understanding that you’ll receive the favor in return sometime!
The whole idea is to spend quality time together every week.
Bonus Tip – if you’re really stuck and just can’t seem to get motivated together, for whatever reason then consider a relationship counselor. A good counselor will know how to work with both of you and come up with a creative solution that works for both of you and will get your relationship fresh again.
You CAN breathe life back into your relationship – get started today and avoid a future break up!
